First, here’s a big belated HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my handsome man who turns 30 today!! 30 has never looked better. Trevor, I can’t believe how much more I love you now than I did when we were first together. Seeing you become a father has made my respect for you skyrocket. You are just the best daddy in the whole world, and Jonathan and I are the luckiest to have you.
It’s been almost 6 years since we became friends, almost 3 years since we started dating, and over 2 years of marriage. I have always said you were the best guy I knew (even when I was dating someone else back in the day..), and you are still by far the best there is. Here are a few things I LOVE about you:
- Your sense of humor has me in stitches constantly.
- Your leadership over our family is strong and protective.
- Your pursuit of my heart leaves me humbled.
- Your integrity is unwavering.
- You are constantly growing in the Lord and are always seeking to know His ways.
- Your words are never frivolous or meaningless, but rather thoughtful and true.
- You are friend to the friendless.
- You lead with grace and strength.
- You never gossip and are cautious to speak a harsh word against anyone, yet you don’t shy away from speaking truth when the time is right.
- Your teaching of Scripture, to me, is unparalleled. I love listening to you speak.
I’m so proud to be called your wife. I’m proud to raise a son who calls you father. I love you deeply.
On a completely different note! I’ve read, off and on, The Power of Positive Thinking for a few years now, and it really is such a useful book. It’s one that I flip through constantly. Norman Vincent Peale, the author, was a minister, so the book is full of Scripture and references to Christ. I love it because it’s practical and incredibly helpful if you struggle with negativity. Over the past year or so, I’ve been reading different sources that deal with the power of mentality and the will, and the consequences of a pessimistic mindset. It’s staggering what negativity and deception can do to your mind, your body, and your emotions. It’s also staggering what can happen when you start to take control back and intentionally change your thought processes. In The Power of Positive Thinking, I came across a list of 7 steps that help you shift your mentality to positive, and I want to write them out here for anyone that might benefit from it:
1. “For the next twenty-four hours, deliberately speak hopefully about everything, about your job, about your health, about your future. Go out of your way to talk optimistically about everything.”
2. “After speaking hopefully for twenty-four hours, continue the practice for one week, then you can be permitted to be “realistic” for a day or two. You will discover that what you meant by “realistic” a week ago was actually pessimistic, but what you now mean by “realistic” is something entirely different; it is the dawning of a positive outlook. When most people say they are being “realistic” they delude themselves: they are simply being negative.”
3. “You must feed your mind even as you feed your body, and to make your mind healthy you must feed it nourishing, wholesome thoughts…Start at the beginning of the New Testament and underscore every sentence about faith. Continue doing this until you have marked every passage in the four books, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. Particularly note Mark 11, verses 22, 23, 24. They will serve as samples of the verses you are to underscore and fix deeply in your consciousness.“
4. “Then, commit the underscored passages to memory. Commit one each day until you can recite the entire list from memory. This will take time, but remember you have consumed much more time becoming a negative thinker than this will require. Effort and time will be needed to unlearn your negative pattern.”
5. “Make a list of your friends to determine who is the most positive thinker among them and deliberately cultivate his society. Do not abandon your negative friends, but get closer to those with a positive point of view for a while, until you have absorbed their spirit, then you can go back among your negative friends and give them your newly acquired thought pattern without taking on their negativism.”
6. “Avoid argument, but whenever a negative attitude is expressed, counter with a positive and optimistic opinion.”
7. “Pray a great deal and always let your prayer take the form of thanksgiving on the assumption that God is giving you great and wonderful things; for if you think He is, He surely is.”
These steps are so simple, but I’ve found that it’s the most simple things done habitually that make the biggest difference. I hope this is as helpful for others as it is for me!
**reference: Peale, Norman Vincent. The Power of Positive Thinking. New York: Prentice-Hall, Inc., 1952. Print. Pg. 171, 172.