I’ve grown up learning about the importance of daily disciplines and cultivating little habits that eventually become second-nature. Before Jonathan, I read some books on ways to incorporate healthy habits into your life, just small things, but things that take discipline nonetheless. Apart from work and a few other commitments, it didn’t take a lot of planning or thought to try out some of these ideas. I could wake up 30 minutes earlier to have quiet time, go to bed 30 minutes earlier to read, plan to take a short nap after work so I have more energy for a work out before dinner, etc..
After having Jonathan, it’s amazing how much more I need the discipline of healthy habits. I’m learning that having a newborn forces your day to be broken up into 30 minute to an hour increments, which can be a real blessing. Of course there are the days when he is nursing on the hour and fussy in between, and those are the days when no blog gets written 🙂 I’m also learning that, with having a baby, you have to take advantage of down-time when it comes because the rest of the day might be spent rocking, gas-dropping, belly-massaging, and forgetting about any kind of schedule. Taking advantage of the down-time could look like cleaning a little bit, or it could be quiet time or doing something relaxing.
I never used to understand how mama’s always talk about finally getting to their cup of coffee 4 hours later, or not eating breakfast until 2pm, but it’s hilarious how true it is. Because of Jonathan, I’m learning to focus on and celebrate the small things in life, little victories like getting him to sleep longer for naps, making his tummy feel better, helping him sleep longer through the night, the list goes on. It makes seemingly small disciplines feel like major accomplishments, such as getting the house clean, getting a good workout in, eating well throughout the day. Taking the time in between caring for Jonathan to work on a small habit makes me feel a thousand times better. It helps me feel better physically, mentally, and emotionally. There have been days where the time in between nursing has been spent just staring at him, and in those times, that’s what my heart needed most. I’ve just found that when I intentionally complete little disciplines throughout the day, even if it’s just for 10 or 15 minutes at a time, I feel better as a wife, a mom, a human being. My mood is better, my body feels better, and my mind feels more clear.
Anyways, what has nudged me to slow down the most has been the nursing. Settling in for 30-45 minutes every 2 hours to nurse, burp, and change a diaper has tested my need to be productive. In reality, feeding and taking care of him is the most productive thing I can do right now, and the most important! Sometimes, the whole 2 hour window may be taken up by nursing, diaper changing, burping, and calming him if he’s fussy. Once he’s calm, he’s hungry again, so there have been days where everything else goes out the window, and I’m not complaining. I’m loving all the bonding time!
I know that this season of taking care of a newborn goes by so fast, so I’m trying to just soak in these moments where I’m needed ’round the clock. If there are days where all the laundry gets done, the dinner gets cooked, the floors get swept, then great! But there are days where the only thing happening is baby-time, and I couldn’t be more content. It’s those days where I know that cultivating little daily habits will serve me well, because a dirty house really does stress me out, and it doesn’t put me so over the edge if I swept the day before 🙂
For now, especially before I go back to work, I’m focusing on the small things. I want to create an atmosphere of peace in the home, be present and whole for Trevor and Jonathan, and stay grounded in my identity first as a daughter of God. I’m learning that all of these things are entirely possible with just little daily disciplines, 10 or 15 minutes at a time.
In conclusion…here are some recent pictures taken with our new Canon camera!